Marcy Myles-Clark Pens ‘Praying Wife, Healed Husband’ After Her Husband Theirrien Clark, John Hopkins Hospital’s Earliest and Sickest COVID-19 Patient, Recovers…

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One year ago, on March 11, 2020, the World Health Organization declared that the outbreak of the novel coronavirus (COVID-19) was a global pandemic! If God has spared your life to mark this anniversary, you need to take a minute right now and give Him some praise on this Sunday morning! To that end, I have a “modern-day biblical story” of victory over COVID-19 to share with you!

One year after the couple’s battle with COVID-19, Marcy Myles-Clark has released her debut book, Praying Wife, Healed Husband, a riveting account of Marcy’s spiritual fight on behalf of her husband, Theirrien “Tee” Clark. Using her journal entries, medical records and a series of communications with her husband’s medical staff, family and friends, Marcy recounts how she remarkably and relentlessly stirred up a bounty of prayer warriors to breathe hope into a hopeless situation—and bring her husband home. On December 18, 2020, “Tee” Clark, one of Howard County’s first COVID-19 cases, received an honorary Doctor’s White Coat from John Hopkins Hospital for his miraculous recovery after a 46-day hospitalization. The White Coat Ceremony is a rite of passage for medical students and was created by the Arnold P. Gold Foundation in 1993. During the ceremony, a white coat is placed on each student’s shoulders and often the Hippocratic Oath is recited, signifying their entrance into the medical profession.

1. What were your initial thoughts when you heard about the pandemic in March 2020?

Marcy: In early March of last year, it was not a huge deal. It was definitely on my radar. It was something we knew to be concerned about, but we had no idea of the magnitude and that things were going to happen so quickly. And that we wouldn’t have the ability to prepare ourselves for it. We were the fourth and fifth in our county to be diagnosed with COVID-19 (just to give a glimpse at how early on it was). We were totally blindsided. At that point, there was talk about social distancing, but we weren’t even talking about masks yet.

Tee: Given the talking points we received from the government, it wasn’t really clear how deadly this disease was. There weren’t a bunch of reported deaths at the time, so no one knew the severity. Even though we were a little suspicious hearing about it, we did everything on our end to protect ourselves. But we still ended up getting infected.

2. Take me back to your life at that point, Tee, you’re a manager at a law firm, and Marcy you’re a pharmaceutical sales rep. When did you begin to experience COVID-19 symptoms?

Marcy: Our experience started on March 13, which was our last working day on a Friday. On Saturday, we became fatigued. It wasn’t impossible that we would be fatigued because we do a lot of things. We rip and run. We commute. We thought we would just relax all weekend. Then my husband became symptomatic. He developed a fever. Then he started getting chills. Classic flu symptoms.  Then he developed a cough. His temperature was intermittent between 99 and 100. I told him by Monday, if his temperature reached 101, we were going to go to urgent care–and hit 101 like clockwork. So, we went to urgent care on Monday morning. My symptoms were mild. I felt like I had a sinus infection because I had nasal discomfort which I experience often so it was no big deal to me. I figured I was just tired, but he was the dead giveaway.

No one was doing COVID testing but the hospital. Because of his symptoms, urgent care referred us to the hospital where we got COVID tests. The next day, on March 17, we were diagnosed with COVID.

What was your initial reaction when you were both diagnosed with COVID-19?

Tee: I was very upset because I was trying to figure out how and where I caught this virus because we had been so careful. But because we were out in the public a lot, we were exposed to a lot of different factors. That Friday evening, I had spoken with my boss and we were discussing closing the firm down. Given what they were saying about this virus, I asked him if he thought any of us were going to get sick. His response was that inevitably someone was going to get sick. We have a law firm of 1,000 people, somebody is definitely going to get it. Little did I know it would be me.

Marcy: For me, in a weird kind of way, it was really a relief because I’m the type of person who thinks: “let’s find out what the devil is and let’s deal with it.” By then, I had kind of figured he had COVID because he had every one of the classic symptoms the CDC and WHO were warning us of, and everything else like the flu and RSV had been ruled out.

Marcy, What was it like to be living a normal life and then have to leave your husband at the hospital and not be with him?

It was crazy. We had gotten in touch with his pulmonologist because he has asthma and allergies. I called his doctor that Friday before. He was actually doing better but his cough was pretty bad. The doctor planned for nurses to meet us at the curb. I dropped him off at the curb and because I was also COVID positive, they wouldn’t let me in. They took his vitals, and I thought he was going to be okay. He just had this cough, and I thought they would just give him some medicine–maybe give him a treatment or something, and then send him on his way.

So, I sat in the car and waited for him to come back out. About 45 minutes later, I called them, and no one answered. I called his phone and he didn’t answer. Five minutes later, he called me back. He put the doctor on the line. The doctor told me that things were worse than they had anticipated, and they needed my permission to do an emergency intubation. As you can imagine, my stomach, my heart and everything just dropped. And that was the beginning of this chapter. I wouldn’t see him alive and well for another 46 days. And he was on a ventilator for 28 of those days.

Tee, what were you thinking at this time or were you too sick to realize what was happening?

I was pretty doped up on cough medicine with codeine, so I was a little out of it. I slept all of the way to the hospital so when we got there, Marcy woke me up and the nurse rolled me in. Initially, the doctors set it up for me to get a cat scan but because COVID was so new, there were no protocols in place. They didn’t know how to prep the machine for a COVID patient. And the doctors said, we need to do something. We can’t wait. They decided to do a chest x-ray. Based off of that x-ray, they determined that I was in lung failure. When the doctor came back into my room, I said, ‘Okay, doc, give me my prescription so I can go home and go to sleep.’ He said, ‘No sir, Mr. Clark, your lungs are failing. We need to intubate you right away.’ I was like, ‘What?!’ That woke me up! I said, ‘I need to call my wife.’ That’s when I called her back and put the doctor on the phone. By then, they had already started an IV drip. Once I handed the doctor the phone, I was out. That was the last time I spoke to her for over 30 days.

3. So I read in your book Marcy that you assembled a prayer team after that.

A lot of things transpired in that time period after hearing that news and not knowing if he was going to live or die. I’ve always been a person of faith and prayer and this was the time to put my money where my mouth was. Interestingly enough, when I was sitting in the parking lot, I tried to figure out what my next move was going to be. I had every imaginable and unimaginable emotion from panic to grief. But my spiritual side just kicked in and I knew I needed to go into prayer. I sent out a few family texts. I made a couple of phone calls. In doing so, I got a call from our niece who is a minister and very strong in her faith. She prayed a mighty prayer for me, and I believe that is what got me home that night.

I sent out a bunch of texts and emails to my friends and family and just activated the prayer chain from there. I solicited prayer from every part of the country and then some. I organized a prayer call, scheduled and impromptu calls, keeping everyone in the loop about his status. As we prayed for him, he would have these different episodes. His oxygen levels would drop, and he would have issues with an irregular heartbeat, and a number of different tragic events. And as we prayed, he would respond. I knew this because I was in touch with the doctors on a regular basis, several times a day. That is the premise of the book. I documented my conversations with the doctors and kept record of  his vitals and physical condition. Whatever the episode was, after prayer, he rebounded. We prayed without ceasing.

A lot of people are private with their struggles, what made you so public about what was going with your husband?

Me and Tee have a really great support system. We love a lot of people–and a lot of people love us. And I know firsthand the power of prayer–of collective prayer. I believe in prayer in numbers. I didn’t know anything else to do. My husband was fighting for his life, and the only weapon I had was prayer.  We are private people but when it comes to something like this, it’s not the time to be private. I will say this, when we first got the diagnosis, we did say we were going to keep it to ourselves because we were among the first to be diagnosed with COVID in our area. We thought it would be over in 14 days. But that went out the window when he had to fight for his life.

And God was speaking to me the whole time. He told me early on that we were going to be okay, but he also told me that I needed to assemble a group of people and pray him back to health. He said to pray like his life counted on it. I felt like if my husband’s living was based on my prayers, then he was going to live.

4. In the book, you were so meticulous with all of the notes you took and your emails, both of which you kept. What gave you the presence of mind at that time to keep track of all that information?

I wasn’t thinking of trying to write a book. I was just trying to stay sane and organized. I was talking to several people during that time frame. I talked to his physician, his hospital providers, etc. five or so times a day. I started writing little sticky notes all over the place and then I realized I need to take this up a few notches. I started writing on loose leaf paper and then I created a binder. That way, I could go back to my previous notes and see where he was earlier in the day and kind of see where the progression was.

I was also journaling for my own personal relaxation. I was journaling my own personal conversations with God. I was also keeping in contact with my prayer group via text. So those were the three things when he began to recuperate that I realized I had. I had the unveiling of a modern-day biblical story. Also, there was a lot of interest in his story when he began to recuperate. I was encouraged to write a book. And it wasn’t that big of a stretch because I realized that I had all of the content.

5. Your husband started getting better around Easter, which is a miraculous turn of events with the timing.

On Easter Sunday, I got the call that he was doing very well, and they were taking steps to try extubate him. I almost fell out of my seat because up until then, things had been so grim.

I read, Tee, that you were trying to get completely well and out of the hospital by your fifth anniversary on May.

When I woke up, I was literally out of it. I didn’t know where I was. All of these people were around me and I answered some of their questions. My initial thought was, I need to get up and go to the bathroom. I tried to move and realized I was paralyzed. I was really freaking out at that moment. I couldn’t move anything–not even my head. In fact, the nurse was cradling my head like I was a baby.

They told me I was going to get some intense physical therapy. I had physical therapy, occupational therapy, and speech language pathology once I left the ICU. They never told me a release date, but I told them I was going to be out of there by May 5. I wanted to be home with my wife on our anniversary. The doctor said to me, ‘That’s a pretty aggressive date, Mr. Clark. You have to meet a couple of thresholds before we consider that.’” I asked what the thresholds were. I was told you have to be able to stand and walk at least 20 feet. When I heard that, I couldn’t sleep. I thought about that all night long. It felt so far away because I had to first get to the point where I caould use a walker.

One of the physical therapists who came in one morning was like a drill sergeant. She said, ‘You only walked 10 feet. You have to get to 20 feet.” But I was determined so I said, ‘No problem.’ I ended up walking 60 feet that day, and 20 of them were without the walker. When I got back on the bed, they were all happy and clapping. The doctor came in and said, ‘You know you’re making great progress. We’re going to meet and discuss your release date.’ I said, ‘Tomorrow! It’s the 5th.’ I ended up being released on May 6, one day after our anniversary.

Although it was day late, what did the two of you do to celebrate your 5th anniversary?

Marcy: Well, we were still on lockdown then, so we didn’t do anything special. We were just happy to be in each other’s presence.

Tee: I still was very weak. I couldn’t walk for too long. I had a lot of problems with balance. I still had fatigue issues. Basically, Marcy was taking care of a baby. In fact, she was helping me to shower one night, and she hurt her back. And it really bothered me. I realized that we needed some additional assistance, so we ended up getting an in-home aide to assist me with those type of things until I got strong enough to do them for myself.

6. What are your lingering symptoms?

Till this day, I still have problems with my right arm. The deltoid muscle was damaged from being on the ventilator so long because I was laying on that. And it killed the muscle. Also, my body has been conditioned to wake up every two hours so I’m still having major sleep issues. When I was in the ICU, they would come in every two hours to take my vitals. Some days, I wake up and I’m extremely tired. I have COVID brain fog sometimes. They call me a long hauler.

7. Why do you think God allowed this to happen to the two of you. What have you learned from this experience?

I think initially we had a mission to get the word out about COVID. It frustrated us because we would go out and see people not abiding by the CDC guidelines. I actually had a lady stop me one time and ask me, ‘Why are you wearing a mask?’ She said she didn’t like wearing masks because she can’t breathe, and they fogged up her glasses. I said, ‘Oh, that’s interesting. Let me tell you this: If you have tube stuck down your throat, you’re not going to be able to breathe either. I’m speaking from my experience as a COVID survivor.’ She looked at me and walked away.

Now our mission going forward is to tell people that they need to get the vaccine. In our community, people are a little apprehensive about getting the vaccine because of our history. But I tell people all of the time that this is a new day and a new virus.

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Watch Two-Hour Premiere of OWN’s ‘Delilah’ on Tuesday, March 9 at 9 PM!

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OWN “Greenleaf” creator Craig Wright’s new series “Delilah” starts on Tuesday, March at 9 p.m. on OWN! The first episode, which is two hours is entitled “Everything to Everybody. “Wright serves as executive producer along with Charles Randolph-Wright and Oprah Winfrey.

Below is the synopsis of Delilah:

Delilah left a demanding white-shoe law firm a decade ago and hung up her own shingle so she could make raising her kids her number one priority. Now she takes on cases the big firms ignore and finds herself, more often than not, going head-to-head with the powerful and privileged as she fights for the disenfranchised. In addition to raising her two kids, Maia and Marcus, Delilah also cares for her young nephew Dion; manages her relationship with her frustrating ex; and to top it all off, she’s about to go up against her best friend Tamara in court for the first time. Delilah has always represented the underdogs. Tamara has always represented the wealthy and powerful. But this case is different: this time, Delilah’s most cherished friendship is on the line, and there are lives at stake. But Delilah does what she always does – she seeks justice for those who need it most. The series is produced by Warner Bros. Television and Harpo Films and filmed in Charlotte, North Carolina.

Maahra Hill  (“Black-ish,” “How to Get Away With Murder”) stars as Delilah Connolly, a headstrong, highly principled lawyer living in Charlotte, North Carolina.  Jill Marie Jones (“Girlfriends”) stars as Tamara Grayson, Delilah’s confidante and best friend; Susan Heyward (“Orange is the New Black”), who portrays Demetria Barnes, Delilah’s newly hired, fearless, and ambitious associate; and Ozioma Akagha (Marvel’s “Runaways”), who plays Delilah’s unfailingly sunny secretary, Harper Conant.

“It’s an honor to work for Ms. Winfrey and OWN and to serve the network’s devoted fans. ‘Delilah’ continues the work we started on ‘Greenleaf,’ namely, bringing untold stories and fresh perspectives to our audience,” said Craig Wright, creator/executive producer.

Wright is currently developing a spinoff of “Greenleaf” for OWN. Wright served as writer and producer on “Lost” and “Six Feet Under,” and was supervising producer on the long-running series “Brothers and Sisters.” He was Emmy-nominated for his writing on “Six Feet Under,” and received three WGA Award nominations, winning the Dramatic Series award in 2004 for “Lost.” In addition, Wright was executive producer and writer for “Tyrant” and “Rush,” and was consulting producer on “United States of Tara.”

From what I’ve read, “Delilah” may incorporate some element of faith. After all, Delilah is a biblical name. However, faith will not be the central theme of the show as it was in “Greenleaf.” Still I plan to watch because I’m a fan of Craig Wright’s writing. I found out more about his writing when I interviewed him last year. If you have yet to read that interview, click HERE.

Any thoughts?

 

 

Why I Don’t Have a Huge Problem With the ‘Sexist’ Sermon By the Missouri Pastor Who Tells Wives to Look ‘Pretty’ & Lose Weight…

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Pastor Stewart-Allen Clark of First General Baptist Church in Malden, Missouri has been all over the Internet for a sermon he delivered last month in which he addressed a variety of ways that wives can remain attractive to their husbands! His sermon has caused so much controversy that apparently he is on leave from his church!

I’m not sure that I saw the entire sermon, but from what I saw, Pastor Clark begins by complimenting former First Lady Melania Trump. “Now look, I’m not saying every woman can be the epic — the epic – trophy wife of all time like Melania Trump. I’m not saying that at all. Most women can’t be trophy wives, but you know … maybe you’re a participation trophy.” As he said this, a photo of Melania Trump appeared on the screen behind him as he spoke. Politics aside, I do believe that she is attractive. He went on to say that men are “visual” and that many wives let themselves go. I agree that men are visual. Statistically speaking, I don’t know that many wives let themselves go, but I’ve heard it joked about by many comedians that they do… He went to say, “You should take great pains to look like the woman he fell in love with.” So far, I don’t see anything controversial about that. We all age, but aging is not synonymous with being unattractive.

And my mother told me that my grandmother told her at one point, after not seeing her for a while, that she should take better care of herself as a married woman. She advised my mother to step it up in terms of her looks and not take my father’s attraction for granted. My mother said she began scheduling more regular hair appointments after that conversation. My mother told me this years before I got married, but I definitely remember that conversation as a married woman. And truth be told, I like to be attractive for my husband, but I like being attractive for me even more. I stay tryin’ to “preserve the sexy” for my own sake.

The next topic, the most controversial one, he brings up is weight control. Now I must say, as he was speaking, I could not help but take notice of his protruding belly that was neither camouflaged nor slimmed down by his black shirt.  He mentioned that his wife managed to lose at least 30 pounds after each of the three children that she had. He said he even went to a Weight Watchers meeting with her, and then he said that his wife said, “Food never tastes as good as skinny feels.” Now when he said this, I thought for sure he would say something about his weight at that time but he didn’t. Weight is a personal matter, but for the sake of our health, we all know that we have to manage our weight. I believe that men are attracted to women of varied sizes, but if our weight is impacting our health or even our happiness, it needs to be addressed. And that is true for men as well. His biggest mistake when it comes to this topic is that while he was addressing the wives, he should have made a point of addressing his weight. He mentioned 1 Corinthians 7:4 which addresses that the bodies of a married couple belong to each other so it would have made sense to discuss himself just a bit since the sermon was geared to wives.

He also talks about the importance of wearing makeup, attractive hairstyles, age-appropriate flattering clothing, sexual intimacy and allowing husbands to be their wives’ “knight in shining armor.” None of his advice took me by surprise because I’ve either heard it from other people before. Yes, there were some biting jokes that were included, but sometimes people are too easily offended.

I would say more, but I don’t have the time. Check out the sermon for yourself here…

And I will also say this: I hope there was a female pastor or speaker who addressed husbands because husbands can do various things to remain attractive, externally and internally, to their wives as well….

Any thoughts?