Is Tina Testifying Too Much? : Mary Mary Season 4, Episode 5 Recap…

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Hello World,

I’m back for my second recap of Mary Mary’s reality show and this episode had more drama than last week’s episode…I don’t know if that’s good or bad, but let me not get ahead of myself…

Last week’s episode ended with Erica deciding to go back to Mary Mary after Tina begged her sister to reunite the gospel duo although Erica’s husband Warryn was hot about her decision…

Meet Tina Campbell, Mary Mary’s manager?

This week’s episode starts in Norfolk, Virginia as the Marys are slated to perform at the Richmond Jazz Festival…As Erica feared in last week’s episode, Tina is already late in getting ready for their performance although Tina claims she has changed since she went through hell and back last year and survived…Despite Tina being late, though, the duo performs their hits such as “Heaven” and “Shackles (Praise You)” without any issues. “The hiatus is over, and the Marys are back,” Tina says to camera after their performance.

In the next scene, Tina is back at home in L.A. with her daughter Laiah who is showing her mother her cheer. A little stiff in her movements, Tina says, “I want you to cheer like you’re from where Mommy is from not the suburbs.” (This is would be a good scene for “Black-ish.”) While her daughter is trying to “put something on it” as Tina suggests, a booking agent calls to ask Tina (because she is supposed to be managing the group, right?) about booking a performance at B.B. King Blues Club & Grill in New York, but she blows him off to put her family time first. Since Tina didn’t respond to him, he calls Erica who manages to converse with him and agrees to the performance although her son is drumming in the background like he is on stage and she is cooking with her daughter in the kitchen. When Warryn finds out that Erica scheduled Mary Mary to perform at B.B. King, he blows up. “You have no idea of the implications of what you just did.” Apparently, he spent $40,000 on promotion in that market so that Erica would be able to perform there and other venues in NYC and now that lucrative opportunity will be split among two instead of given to one…Erica wonders why she is the one planning dates for Mary Mary when Tina is the manager…

Sister to Sister Drama…

Mary Mary head to NYC for their performance and while they are there, they are scheduled to be interviewed by Jamie Foster Brown, publisher of Sister 2 Sister magazine which is a mashup of People magazine/TMZ for the black community. But before she arrives at their hotel room, Goo and Erica are tripping because it was reported on the magazine’s website that Teddy, Tina’s husband, may have fathered a child when he was out and about and Tina doesn’t know about the rumor…They tell Tina what was reported before Jamie arrives, but Tina doesn’t back away from Jamie when Jamie straight ups asks her about the rumor…She said it was false information and says, “That’s why I told my truth in the beginning.” Erica is cringing throughout the whole interview because Tina held back nothing…  “Tell some, save some, sister” Erica says to the camera…I agree with Tina’s approach…Say it before somebody else says it..

Showing Her Scars aka Tina’s Testimony Part Deux…


You would think that shutting down an outside child rumor would be enough marriage drama for one episode since Tina and Teddy have put the past behind them, but Tina wants to share her testimony again and tell even more than she did the first time…This time Tina gets interviewed by Shaila Scott of 107.5 WBLS in New York…Wearing a t-shirt that states ” I Show My Scars So That Others Know They Can Heal,” designed by one of my blogger boos Rhachelle Nicol, Tina shares again how her husband had a “lot of affairs over a lot of years.” She shares how sometimes she would be under the covers screaming her sister’s song “Help” and how she felt like killing somebody. But she wraps it up by saying her life is completely better a year later and that she is no longer “trapped in a prison of brokeness.”

The Shark Tank…

Also while in NYC, Tina meets with Daymond John, CEO of FUBU and one of the sharks on ABC’s show “The Shark Tank.” He is helping Tina define her brand. When he asks her to define her brand in a few words, she states, “A test that became a testimony.” Ehhh….I’m not a branding expert, but that phrase has been used by so many Christians I don’t know if that phrase is unique enough to set her apart. But Daymond loves it and pledges to help her brand take off…So what I do know?

Remember Erica Campbell, the solo artist?

Seeing that Mary Mary ‘s show at B.B. King’s was sold out, Erica is feeling some type of way about sharing the spotlight with her sister at the venue. She pledges to show out and not waste her husband’s money since she plans to perform as a solo artist at Shiloh Baptist Church in Harlem…The only problem is that she’s tired after performing as Mary Mary…In fact, she’s so tired she is unable to make the sound check before the performance…When Tina comes to Erica’s room to check on her, she criticizes her sister for saying yes to everything and suggests that she manage her sister…Erra, Tina, you were the one that got your sister to come back to Mary Mary and add more to her schedule…Erica obviously agrees with me because she says to the camera, “You want to manage Erica Campbell, but you can’t manage Mary, Mary.”

Although the show starts off well with Erica singing “A Little More Jesus,” Erica needed a lot more Jesus because she almost fell out on stage. In fact, Tina, who was just chilling in the audience in a baseball cap, t-shirt and jeans, had to get on stage while her sister was resting backstage. And wouldn’t you know it? Before Tina starts singing, she shares her testimony yet again. She says,  “It was the most challenging time of my life” and that she was mad at God. Meanwhile backstage, Erica is getting mad at her sister for sharing her testimony yet again…Will Mary Mary stay reunited? You know what to do…Watch next week and read my recap…

I Luh God and other Mary Mary news…

I don’t know if Mary Mary will stay reunited by the end of this season’s Mary Mary, but we do know that Erica Campbell is still on her solo grind…Earlier this week, Erica released her new single “I Luh God” on her reissued album “Help 2.0.”…I had to pause and gather my thoughts about this new song…Do I want to bless it or bash it? First of all, “luh” is love in Ebonics I guess…And folks are calling the song trap gospel…I thought folks listened to gospel so they could get out of the trap — not jam in the trap…

The song starts off with “I luh God, You don’t luh God, What’s Wrong Wit U?” Just typing that made my brain hurt…It don’t seem right to go from “How Great Thou Art” to “I Luh God.” The thing is Mary Mary is known for making gospel songs bump…Erebody loves “Shackles (Praise You)” and “God In Me.” They’ve got catchy beats and they are appropriately “crunk for Christ.” But this song right here confounds me almost as much as Beyoncé did when she sang “Precious Lord” at the GRAMMYs. After Erica’s initial verse, some rapper comes in sounding like a male version of  Baby D of JJ Fad (remember summa lumma dumma or whatever Baby D said…) speaking in tongues…I think he says, “I lub Him, I lub Him, I lub Him” faster and faster before he stops…

Plus, I always find myself in a conundrum when I hear gospel songs that have “wordly” beats…What am I supposed to do? Am I supposed to sing along?… I guess that could work but gospel songs that are too crossover end up sounding corny to me and I can’t participate…And please don’t ask me to dance…When I hear certain beats, I involuntarily arch my back to drop it low…(Hey, no one starts off saved…) but you can’t drop it low to a song about God…Even Erica looks confused while she is singing the song… She wants to dance, but how far can she go…So she settles for doing a half Bankhead Bounce…

I’m still a Mary Mary/Erica & Tina fan, but this ain’t the song that will take me to the altar or turn me up in the club…

On the other hand, I loved her song “Help” and apparently her solo album won her the Artist of the Year Award at the Stellar Awards. And she won other awards as well. The Stellar Awards will be televised on Easter Sunday. Check your local listings and the TheStellarAwards.com for air times.

Any thoughts?

 

 

Atlanta’s First Black First Lady Pens New Church for Churches…

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I wanted to end Women’s History Month by devoting today’s blog entry to an important woman in Atlanta history. That woman is Ms. Bunnie Jackson-Ransom, president and CEO of firstClass, Inc., a full-service public relations and marketing firm she founded in 1975. Her clients lengthy list of clients have included but are definitely not limited to: The National Conference of Black Mayors, Burger King Corporation, the Trumpet Awards,  The King Center, American Traffic Solutions, Jackmont Hospitality, Inc. and Edmond, Lindsay & Hoffler, LLC.

Ms. Jackson-Ransom has enjoyed a multifaceted career. While serving as president and owner of firstClass, she responded to a request to manage the careers of several performing artists; and from 1978 through 1988, she was the chief administrative officer of a conglomerate company under the umbrella of Atlanta Artists.   She began her career in the music industry after she had already distinguished herself as a business woman in the areas of education, government and public relations.  As president of Atlanta Artists Management, she was also responsible for the daily activities of Atlanta Artist Productions and Atlanta Artists Records, and managed the recording career of acts such as CAMEO and Larry Blackmon and The SOS Band.

Ms. Jackson-Ransom is a member of the National Council of Negro Women; Atlanta Association of Black Journalists; the Atlanta Branch of the NAACP; The Links, Inc.; the Metropolitan Atlanta Coalition of 100 Black Women.  She is also an active member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority where she served as past local chapter president and past chairman of the National Projects Committee. In the early 1970’s she served the City of Atlanta as its first black “First Lady” during her marriage to the late Mayor Maynard Jackson before they divorced in 1976. She is the proud mother of three daughters and one son. More recently, she is the grandmother of five. She is an active member of Cascade United Methodist Church. To read her complete biography, please go to her Ms. Jackson-Ransom’s website.

second editionMs. Jackson-Ransom is also the author of Getting The Word Out: How To Market Your Ministry: Communication Tools & Tactics You Need For Evangelism, which was originally published in 2010 but recently revised. Her book is the reason that I wanted to feature her on this blog.

 1. Why did you write Getting the Word Out?

I wrote this book because I had been doing public relations for churches for a long time. It started with a project that I did for Apostle Collette Gumby and a church called Green Pastures. She was doing a play called “King of Glory,” and I got excited about the play. I was working for Burger King. Burger King was a client, and my job was community affairs for Burger King. So I presented the project to Burger King. They liked it, and they became a sponsor for the church’s play. As a result of my working with Rev. Gumby, I found myself doing things for the church, press releases about the church, getting interviews for the church about the play and so forth and put that in my bucket of things I had done so to speak.

So when I joined Cascade United Methodist Church, the pastor there was Rev. Walter Kimbrough. He put me to work on doing some things for him like handling the project for his retirement and before the retirement, his anniversary. And I kept on doing work for my church. There was a need for someone to do the things that I was doing for the church. I finally said to Rev. Kimbrough, ‘I’m treating you like a client. You have a spot in my computer. You have a folder in my files. How about considering retaining my services?’ And he did. So I worked for the church for at least five or six years before he retired.

What I discovered was that I had a plan in my head for handling marketing for churches. It wasn’t that much different from the way one goes about handling marketing for any other organization or corporation. You have a product. The product has to be pushed out into the marketplace for use. And so I said this is a book.

2. Why is getting the word out important for churches?

If nobody knows that you are there, nobody will come. God is a master marketer. The reason I say that is because of Matthew 2:2. We saw a star in the east and have come to worship Him. That star is a billboard that God put in the sky. If the wise men hadn’t seen it, they would not have come to worship the baby Jesus. God has been marketing Christianity, and Jesus was a marketing person. He rode in cities with palms. That is like a parade.

And look at Romans 10: 14 . How then shall they call on Him in whom they have not believed? And how shall they believe in Him of whom they have not heard? And how shall they hear without a preacher? This verse says to me, How can they do any of that if you don’t get the word out and compel them to come into God’s house. When you drive up and down Cascade Road, there are at least seven churches within a mile. What makes me go to church A and rather than church B? It’s marketing. It’s how you get the word out about your church.

3. I understand that you are also available to present your book as a workshop to churches.

Yes, several pastors have invited me to their churches. Pastor William Flippin of Greater Piney Grove Baptist Church in DeKalb County bought several copies of the book and gave them to his leadership team. He brought me in to do a session on the book, and then he took it a step further, he asked me to come back and do a session on crisis communications.  I just returned from a session in Little Rock, Arkansas with Pastor Ronnie Miller-Yow. He brought me in to do a seminar before several United Methodist churches from that district. I worked with Jeffries Cross Church in Burlington, North Carolina.

I have several plans that I offer churches. With one plan I just come in and do the seminar and another one, I do the seminar and help you start your communications committee. I leave the committee with job descriptions and help them develop a media database for the area that they are in, show them how to write a press release, or I can give the church the plan and come back in six months to see what you’ve done or you call me up and say, ‘Bunnie, I’ve written a press release, can you tweak it?’

4. Why did you revise the book?

It had holes in it. Social media happened. I didn’t give that much attention to it in the first book. I just mentioned it. Now I discuss about three or four platforms that would work for the church. And then I put in a chapter in it about crisis communications.

5. It seems that many churches are having crises. How should churches handle crises?

First of all, get ready for it, because the bigger you get, the more apt you are to have some kind of crisis. Whether it spills over into the media or not, that is irrelevant. If it spills over into the media, then you really have a public crisis, but there are some crises inside the pews that no one ever knows about but the church.

First of all, appoint a crisis committee. I mention the type of people who should be on that committee. If it’s a legal crisis, then you pull in your lawyer. But let’s say it is the kind of crisis that spills over into the media, you need to have a crisis go-to person. It doesn’t have to be the senior pastor, it could be the associate pastor. If you have a communications committee, it might be the chair of that committee. That is the person who calls the crisis team together.

Let’s say one of the deacons absconded with the collection plate. How do we fix this? We start talking to the congregation about the positive things that are going on in the church. If it’s in the media, talk about the positive the church is doing and give the media something else to talk about because if you don’t give the media something, they will do their job and report the story that they know about.

6. How did you get your start in public relations? good times

When Ernie Barnes asked for my help. He was the artist that did the paintings for J.J. on “Good Times.”  Ernie and I went to school together. I was married to the mayor and people would ask me to help them do things. So Ernie wanted to penetrate the Atlanta market and sell some paintings so I asked Ernie if he would do an exhibit and connect it to my (then) husband’s campaign to show that the Mayor Jackson campaign had a sensitivity for the arts.

So I went to the High Museum and asked if they would let us do something there with Ernie Barnes and the answer was no because they already had a schedule and we couldn’t fit in the schedule. So then I could found out that I could rent the lobby of the High Museum. So Ernie and I rented the lobby and we hung his paintings in the lobby. In the lobby, you could see his paintings on the way to Symphony Hall or going to the theatre or going anywhere there. We did a catalog of his paintings, and we hired someone to sit there. Well, Ernie sold out.

I took Ernie’s paintings to the president of the Coca-Cola Company who at that time was Paul Austin and asked if he would support the project and he did. Ernie did some paintings called the ‘The Beauty of the Ghetto.’ That was the exhibit was called and we donated prints to all of the boys and girls clubs in Atlanta. And we got Ernie on the front page of the Sunday section of the newspaper with some of his paintings. I asked Ernie how much would you have paid someone to do this. He said, ‘Oh about $5,000.’ And remember this was a long time ago. I said, ‘Okay, I’m not volunteering anymore.’ And that’s how I got started. That’s how I realized what I was doing had value.

7. As Atlanta’s first black First Lady, have you ever wanted to give advice to our nation’s black First Lady Michelle Obama?

When President Obama was first elected, I used to say to myself, ‘Lord, just let me get to her.’ I’ve spoken to her, but there was such a flurry of people that I couldn’t say what I wanted to say. What I wanted to way was, ‘Hang in there. This too shall pass.’ When I was First Lady, I wanted my own thing so to speak. And I get the same feeling about Michelle. I mean she’s a lawyer so she’s got to have an ego. She’s got to have a dream of her own. And being the First Lady for me and most likely for her meant that I had to put my goals on the back burner so I want to say, ‘Hang in there, Sister. In eight years, it will be over.”

To buy a copy of Ms. Jackson-Ransom’s book, please go click on the link: Getting the Word Out: How to Market Your Ministry.

Any thoughts?

 

Why ‘Empire’ is Causing Me to Have a Midlife Crisis…

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I don’t know if this is a delayed reaction to turning 40 years old almost two years ago as this September, but I am just now starting to feel like I’ve hit middle age…And I’m not sure what to do about that…

It started when I binge watched the first four episodes of “Empire” at a friend’s house…I had heard about the show which is a modern and hip hop version of the Shakespeare tragedy “King Lear.” But instead of King Lear struggling to divide his estate between his three daughters, Lucious Lyon, a music mogul, is struggling to hand over his empire to one of his three sons: Andre, Jamal and Hakeem. Complicating the struggle is the return of Lucious’ ex-wife Cookie, who went to jail for 17 years for dealing drugs. However, the drug money was used to start Lucious’ career in the rap industry and fund the construction of his music label Empire Entertainment and Cookie holds that detail over her ex-husband’s head once she is released from prison…

So although I had heard about the show, I wasn’t anxious to add the hip-hop soap opera to my already full TV watching schedule (RHOA, The Walking Dead, Y&R, Being Mary Jane, Scandal, How to Get Away with Murder, etc. ). But at a friend’s house where I was along with other friends, I decided to watch at least one episode with them…I promise you I did not move from my spot on my friend’s chair for several hours, long after the rest of my friends fell asleep. I almost had to be told to leave…I.was.hooked…But I was also troubled…Cookie, who is portrayed Taraji P. Henson, has three sons…The oldest one, Andre, is a college graduate and her youngest son, Hakeem, is 17 years old! How can Yvette (also portrayed by from Taraji P. Henson) from  “Baby Boy” be old enough to have three sons?! I mentioned that my friends while we were watching “Empire,” and one of my friends replied, “We old, girl.” And remember when Terrance Howard, who portrays Lucious Lyon, was the tenderoni Brendan King that Max on “Living Single” was ashamed she was dating? When he did get old enough to sire three boys?

That was my first inkling that maaaybe I’m not as young as I feel on the inside or look (don’t act! fingers snapped)…

Then three new radio stations, referred to as classic hip hop stations, debuted in metro Atlanta…While I’m loving the music, I don’t know about you but any music genre that is preceded by the word “classic” is really just another way of saying old folk’s music…And when you think about it, hip hop, which was once this new pulsating street phenomenon, has been around for at least 20 years at this point…20 years ago, “Empire” couldn’t have plausible because there were no hip hop moguls 20 years ago…But now, we have Diddy, Jay Z, Dr. Dre and Suge Knight (God bless him…smh…) and others who have amassed a fortune in hip hop and built their own empires…

The fact that I’m old enough to have amassed a fortune (but haven’t) was my second indication time is moving for real for for real….

A few weeks ago, I saw Will Smith on Jimmy Kimmel promoting his latest movie “Focus.” During the interview, Will Smith said his youngest son, 16-year-old Jaden, is now driving…I remember when it was announced that Jada was pregnant with him…And then Will was asked to rap…He was still good, but it was like watching your uncle try to “bust a move.” That lean and hungry look that most young rappers have at their prime had been replaced by the ease and comfort that wealth and a few good meals will bring. Don’t get me wrong…Will Smith looks fit, but he also looks older…And if the Fresh Prince has gotten older, where does that leave me? (Yes, ’80 babies, Will Smith was a rapper before he was a actor…)

And this is the moment when the drip drop of a leaky faucet finally gave way to the flood of realization that I’ve hit middle age…

And now that I’m thinking out it, there have been other clues, but I’ve ignored them until now…

In no particular order…

  • Lauryn Hill daughter’s Selah is 16 years old…We’re not event talking about Zion, her oldest child…
  • Lil Kim had a baby…Yes, Lil Kim had a baby…I still can’t believe she is someone’s mother
  • Erick Sermon had a heart attack…Rappers are old enough to have heart attacks now…
  • Eminem’s daughter Hailie is 19 years old!!!
  • Yo Yo married a mayor!!!
  • Diddy’s son Justin is in college…
  • Snoop Dog’s son, who is a football star, is heading to college

Maybe if I have had children by now, all of this wouldn’t have taken me by surprise…but now I know why nephew shakes his head and averts his eyes when I try to dance in the front seat of my car when I hear my jam, I’m old…old lady

Any thoughts?