Are You Ready?

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Yesterday, I was full in Christmas prep mode as a week from yesterday is Dec. 25! As I cleaned my house a bit and got dressed while watching “Miracle on 34th Street,” for the first time, I quickly got in the mood for some guerrilla warfare type shopping and I even enlisted R to help me navigate my designated territory – Perimeter Mall and surrounding shops.

Since R is a man, he has no real tolerance for the art of shopping…But I must admit he was a real trooper yesterday and even helped me to knock off more than half of my Christmas list by 12 a.m., which is when we left the last store of the day or night actually…After we walked through the entirety of Perimeter Mall three times, he loudly declared that it was time to go and that’s why he did not like going shopping with women anyway. I tried to explain to him that shopping has a strategy that  must be obeyed, a strategy that he thoroughly disapproves of – if a woman sees something she likes and wants to buy it, it’s not a done deal until she has visited at least three other stores. He said it’s a waste of time because inevitably a woman will buy the first thing she saw anyway and wasted time by visiting the other stores. I explained to him that a woman has to be convinced that she has the best spoils of the war if you will, and the only way it can be done is to survey the entire landscape before capturing her prey…

Still with all of our debate, it was a productive and fun day and I’m starting to really feel ready for Christmas…But my materialistic readiness for Christmas is not the only thing I am pondering as the days before Christmas slip by…I am pondering if I am spiritually ready to welcome Jesus in my heart again this year. I’ve been a Christian for several years now, but as well as know, we must periodically ask ourselves if we are progressing in our Christian walk or are we stagnant or are we even regressing….It’s definitely something that must be considered on a regular basis, particularly at this time of the year.

One of the ways that I check myself is to consider if I am truly living my life as Jesus did while he was here on earth. About a month ago around Thanksgiving, I was touched when as I returned to my car in a parking lot after work, I noticed that several people had set up a mobile restaurant outside the back of a pickup truck and were serving hot food and drinks to some of the homeless people in the area. I am sure those people appreciated the hot food and drinks as it was very cold that day.  As all Christians know, Jesus was known for His kind works to people less fortunate than Him. If I am to be like Jesus, I must make time for people who do not have what I have – materially or otherwise….Here is a verse to consider…“The King will reply, ‘I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.” Matthew 25:40

It is also important to consider the condition of our hearts which can be off center in spite of outward acts of kindness and other good deeds. I am no doctor obviously, but I would imagine that heart surgery is much more difficult than stitching up a gash for example. I say that because inventorying the condition of your heart has to be more difficult than determining if you are making time to serve others. I mean you are even serving others or you are not. But the heart is entirely different matter altogether…I’m no minister, but I imagine that we can give ourselves a heart check by asking ourselves if we are really seeking His will for our lives or are we making living our lives according to our own plan and designs. When I was a little girl, I was scared to get baptized for a long time because I thought God would call me to be a missionary and I would be forced to live in primitive conditions with little access to modern comforts. I greatly respect missionaries but I truly thank God, He has not called me to make that particular sacrifice…But trust and believe that since God made the ultimate sacrifice of His son for our sins, a Christian life will involve some sacrifice. Another way to inventory our innards is to determine if we have allowed sin to creep into our lives. Are we trying to explain away little white lies? Are we gossiping?  Are we twisting scripture to justify wrongdoing? Here is a verse to consider…”Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name drive out demons and in your name perform many miracles?’ Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!'” Matthew 7:22-24

Another way to inventory our readiness for Jesus is to ask ourselves are we really telling others about Him. Now that I have become an official cheap skate, I am elated when others tell me how to get a deal on ANYTHING…I was in the dollar store a while ago to buy some paper supplies. I noticed a woman choosing some paper supplies that did not seem to be as great deal as the paper supplies that I had selected. I blurted out, “Did you see this item? It has more in there for the same price as the item that you picked up.” She laughed and said, “I was just about to tell you that even though this item has less in it, it lasts much longer than the item that has more in it.” I said, “Really? I will try it.” She was right. And that is what it’s like when you have some good news, you cannot keep it to yourself! For all practical purposes, it would seem that I share about Jesus all of the time since my faith in God is the focus of this blog. And that is true to a certain degree, but I have the hardest time actually talking about what I write about…I guess because though I have known Jesus for many years, I have never seen Him…One of my new favorite Christian authors puts it this way…

I felt as if believing in God was no more rational than having an imaginary friend. They have names for people who have imaginary friends, you know. They keep them in special hospitals. Maybe my faith in God was form of insanity. Maybe I was losing my marbles. I start out believing in Christ, and the next thing you know I am having tea with the Easter Bunny or waltzing with my toaster, shouting, “The redcoats are coming! ” This is from “Blue Like Jazz” by Donald Miller

But the thing is, though I have never seen Jesus, I have experienced Him for years, and I have journal after journal to prove it. At this time of the year, I have to ask myself if I have shaken off my fear of looking like an idiot and shared the best news of my life – that my God loves me and He loves you too. Here is a verse to consider…“And then He told them, ‘Go into all the world and preach the Good News to everyone.'” Matthew 16:15

Anywho, I guess if I were a theologian, I could come up with more tests to inventory our readiness for Jesus, but I am not so I will close now…but I will say something my father, who is a theologian, likes to point out each year…On Christmas, it always exciting to tear through the wrapping paper so that we can see the gifts that our loved ones have given us. But before long, maybe even by the end of the day, our excitement will have waned and we will be as we were before…But if we have received the gift of Jesus, we will never be like what we were before and our excitement grows as we get to know Him more and more…

Jesus is the reason for the season…Are you ready?

Any thoughts?

P.S. Watch Vanessa Williams of Richard Smallwood’s group “Vision” tear up “Oh How He Loves You and Me.”

Count Your Many Blessings…(aka Happy Thanksgiving 2010!)

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Jenise & her new hubby on their big day...

I know the day after tomorrow, the United States will be awash in the commencement of the Christmas season. And it is the most wonderful time of the year, but I think the Lord does want us to celebrate His many blessings that He has lavished on us…And Thanksgiving is the perfect time to do so…The best way that I know to celebrate His many blessings is to count them or make a gratitude list…And let me share a secret with you…When life is hard and nothing seems to be going the way that you had expected or hoped for, making a gratitude list has an uncanny way of reminding you that your circumstances could be worse, thus inspiring hope for the future…And without further introduction, I present my Top 20 gratitude list for 2010…(in no particular order…)

1. Jehovah-Rohi(My Shepherd), Jehovah-Jireh(My Provider) and Jehovah-Shalom(My Peace). I’m thankful for the relationship I have with the Lord, who is my savior and my friend. Even when I don’t understand His ways, which is often, I just couldn’t live on this Earth without Him…

Jenise's bridesmaids on the way to the wedding in the limo...

2. The sermon I heard on New Year’s Eve about Joshua finally leading the Israelites into the Promised Land after they wandered for 40 years in the desert…This sermon inspired me to claim my entrance into my own personal promised land this year, and it is happening saints, Hallelujah!

3. My family. I don’t know how people live hundreds of miles away from their loved ones…My family is my rock…

4. R, who has been my biggest cheerleader this year…

5. The wedding of Jenise, one of my best friends…After suffering a heartbreaking relationship loss years ago, she is finally the wife to a man who truly loves her…

6. All of my girls…you know who you are…

7. Nevaeh Publishing LLC

8. Tiffany Warren and The Faith & Fiction Retreat

9. My favorite author, Catherine Marshall, whose words and influence continue to inspire me even after her death…

10. My job…

11. Traveling mercies…

The beautiful bride...

12. My formal financial coach who has taught the value of keeping track of every penny and making the best use of my resources…

13. My various spiritual and religious communities…

14. My line sister, Lola, who has an incredible story of hope, faith & victory…

15. Inspired Sistah, whose words and encouragement has inspired me to live on top of the world…Go Tangie Go!

16. All of my many adventures this year from covering the ABC News Nightline Face-Off”: Why Can’t a Successful Black Woman Find a Man? to calming down a chick who wanted to start a fight with one of my girls at the Phipps movie theater where we went to see Sex and the City 2. Hilarious…and pitiful at the same time…

17. The 31st Annual Christian Women’s Retreat. I thoroughly enjoyed being the featured speaker, particularly since I had to study this Bible verse…

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.  And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

Romans 12:1-2

18. My blog. Not only is it a way to satisfy some of my creative urges, I have learned so much from writing and the people who appreciate my writing…thank you very much…

19. Spiritual Discernment…

20. Books…They are one of the loves of my life…

Any thoughts?

All of us...

What Have You Done For Me Lately?

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Check my title. Remember this Janet Jackson song? If you don’t, let me refresh your memory…It was megahit song from Janet Jackson’s Control (1986) album and her first hit on both the pop and R&B charts according to Wikipedia. This song is about a woman’s growing dissatisfaction with her man as she realizes that all of the nice stuff he did for her was becoming a distant memory hence the question, “What Have You Done For Me Lately?”

I imagine that in many, if not most, romantic relationships, somebody is asking that question at some point…But what about our relationship with the Lord…I wonder if the Lord asks that question from time to time about me or about you…I would guess the short answer is yes. If you’re anything like me, you find yourself offering prayers to God that sound like this…”Lord, give me favor with my boss” or “Lord, get me a book deal” or “Lord, who is the one you have for me?” And I believe the Lord does want us to come to Him with all kinds of requests (Ephesians 6:18). So those type of prayers are not wrong…But sometimes, I know the Lord must tire of us asking Him to do things for us…Sometimes, He must want to yell, “What have you done for me lately?!”

Obviously, as mere human beings, there is nothing that we can do for God that He cannot do for Himself, but like the woman in the Janet Jackson song, I’m sure that He wants our actions in the present to demonstrate our love for Him…Now here is the caveat. Usually acts of love require sacrifice…This post reminds me of a story from my childhood and a comparable story in my early ’20s…When I was a little girl, I was taught that I should become a Christian or “give my heart to the Lord,” but I once famously told my Sunday School teacher that “I was not done being bad yet!” I also did not want to be a missionary…I met some missionaries as a child, and it sounded like hell on earth to be in some hut in a faraway rural country proclaiming  God’s world… and they were always begging for money to support the mission too…it just was not appealing to this city girl who even refuses to go camping unless there is an air-conditioned cabin involved…As a child, I had this nagging fear that the Lord was going to call me to be a missionary, and I wanted no parts of that…I remember when I worked as an intern at a Baptist newspaper right after college, and we ran a story about some missionaries in Buckhead (yes in the north of the A)…I chuckled to myself as I read the story…Now, if the Lord wants me to be a missionary to the affluent, I could certainly do that, I said to myself..

But back to the dreaded sacrificial acts of love….What should our sacrificial acts of love be? I think these verse offers some direction…

For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, 36I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’ 37“Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? 38When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? 39When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’

 40“The King will reply, ‘I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.’  Matthew 25:35-39

Acts of sacrificial love, I believe, involve doing things to help others.

My mother just came back from Jamaica where she spent a week helping to facilitate a Vacation Bible School that had over 200 children each night…And my mother and her team stayed in accommodations that did not have air conditioning…Say what? My mother adores children so I’m sure that is was so much fun for her, but I think it was a sacrifice too…one that required her to give up air conditioning, energy, my father and her adoring daughter (me) and sons, her schedule, etc…I’m sure the Lord was pleased…At some point, I hope I work up the courage to do a short-term mission trip…Yeah, I said it…I have no inclination to be a long-term missionary…

But even if you do not decide to travel to a faraway country in an act of sacrifice, I am sure there are things we can do in our own neighborhood and corner of the world to demonstrate our acts of sacrifice and love for the Lord…Have we given money to some worthy mission?  Are we volunteering for a ministry at our church? Do we allow time in our schedule for “divine appointments?” A divine appointment is an appointment that you did not plan for that day that may involve you spending an hour talking to someone that needs your insight when you planned to do something or be somewhere else. Have you given a ride to someone who needs it?

If you’re anything like me, it is so easy to think about all of my goals and dreams for my life –and many of them include goals I have for the kingdom of God…But I don’t think that God is pleased when my life becomes singularly about accomplishing about my goals…sometimes I have to just put aside my goals for a moment or longer and just be available to whatever God wants me to do at the moment – whether or not it gets me any closer to my goals…

And here’s a hint…whatever you or I decide to do, I don’t think we have to tell others if we can help it…I think God is especially pleased when we do things for Him when only He is watching…

3But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. Matthew 3:3-4

Anywho, as I go throughout my day today, I will be thinking of my acts of sacrifice…What about you?

Any thoughts?

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