OWN Debuts Provocative New Unscripted Series ‘All the Single Ladies’

Hello World & Happy New Year!!!

I’m BAACCCKKKK! Have you missed me? I hope so…I’m hoping you will still rock me as I attempt to get started in the new year after another long break. Why have you been away, you ask? I was working on a ginormous freelance project that took all of my extra attention outside of my job, family life and other regular responsibilities. And as I said in my blog description, “I typically blog on Sundays and Wednesdays (to coincide with Sunday Morning Church Service and Wednesday Night Bible Study), but sometimes I may post more or less depending on what is going on in my life… If God can be patient with me, I hope you can too!”

So here we go…

OWN (Oprah Winfrey, baby) never fails to captivate me with its programming and the network is starting off 2023 with a show that will keep my attention every week! Since I wrote a whole novel about single black women, it is a no brainer that I love that OWN’s new show “All The Single Ladies,” which endeavors to provide a provocative view of intimacy and dating in the modern world from the perspective of black women across the nation. The unscripted series debuted on Friday, January 6 at 9pm ET/PT, and new episodes will debut every Friday night concurrently on both OWN and Discovery+.

Each episode will feature four black women of various ages and relationship statuses sitting down to explore a different topic. The conversations will sometimes be comedic and at other times will be heartbreaking, but they will always be real, authentic and heartfelt with the common goal of finding and wanting love. Below is the trailer:

I watched the first episode entitled Side Chicks which featured Crystal, a 42-year-old healthcare industry professional; Jameela, a 42-year-old marketing executive; Nicole, a 43-year-old public health professional; and Stephanie, a 42-year-old marketing director. I loved that the women are in their 40s so they spoke with maturity in the interview format of the show. Additionally, I loved that while the women are attractive, they are not the usual “baddies” that you see on television. They are normal looking women without a lot of accoutrements, if that makes sense. And they had different body types as well. Also, I appreciated that while each of the women served drama i.e. how side chicks derailed their relationships, it was not over-the-top drama that drives much of fake reality television.

Crystal married a guy who was 10 years younger than she was and the guy kept dating like he was still still single. Scandalous! Jameela ended up dating a dude who got her and another woman pregnant at the same time and she referred to the babies as “ghetto twins!” Ha! Nicole received anonymous letters detailing her man’s cheating and till this day she doesn’t know who sent the letters to her. Scary! Stephanie was with her man for three years before he ended a marriage proposal to her with the word “Pysch!” and she kept seeing him afterward. Confusing! Another aspect of the show that I appreciated was how the women spoke about how their upbringings may have affected their dating lives AND they took responsibility for their part in the situations although these men were mostly at fault in my estimation…

Below is an official episode description followed by a few clips from the show and descriptions of the remaining episodes:

Side Chicks – Imagine being pregnant and newly married, only to find out the father of your child has been cheating? Or realizing your long-term boyfriend lives a separate life with someone else? Or seeing on social media that your boyfriend has gotten his ex-wife pregnant? After learning their partners have been unfaithful, four women must make painful choices about their relationships. Below are a few clips from the first episode…

The Swirl Life – When a study abroad trip quickly turns into an interracial, international love affair, a TV reporter discovers that being color blind is no longer the goal. After blind dating online for five years with a man from a different race, a dietician finally meets her boyfriend. A black woman from Compton dates a white man from Malibu. A writer in the coast guard lands her first kiss at 26, leading to a relationship that forces her to make hard decisions about her future.

Why Women Cheat – We often hear about men cheating, but what about women? Four women share their personal journeys from commitment to infidelity and finally, to peace of mind.

Raised By Religion – A teacher confronts her sexual identity, a stand-up comic tolerates an unfaithful husband and two preachers’ daughters rebel against their upbringings. This episode follows four women’s journeys as they break the rules, challenge their religious beliefs and search for true love.

Bad Boys – Four women — a massage therapist, a treatment counselor, a baker and a musician – talk about their past relationships with fast-talking charmers who turned out to be toxic. The women share their tough decisions in an episode that explores relationship illusions, the fear of being alone and personal self-worth.

What Just Happened? – A nurse is blindsided by her husband’s homosexuality, a court liaison reevaluates her long-term relationship with a cheating boyfriend, a writer’s world is turned upside down when the man of her dreams becomes abusive, and an entrepreneur is ghosted by the man she loves. In this emotional episode, four women tell their stories of infatuation, heartbreak and rebirth.

Sexual Awakenings – A comedian attempts to find love with a man before finally embracing her sexuality as a lesbian; a flight attendant finds her own sexual sweet spots after a sexless relationship with a preacher; a chef finds love after a Hot Girl Summer turns into an Auntie Spring; and a seasoned writer finds fulfillment through long-distance sexting.

Red Flags –  Through laughter and a few tears, an educator, a comedian, a business executive and a medical professional talk about their hard-earned lessons after ignoring the red flags in their previous relationships.

Now, what is confusing to me is that while all of the press materials have stated that the show debuted on Friday, the episode Red Flags, which is supposed to be the final episode, already aired. At any rate, if you would like to watch Side Chicks and Red Flags, you can go to oprah.com

And forgive me for going here, but it is my blog…LOL…If you ALSO like to read about single black women and drama, please check out my aforementioned novel Destination Wedding. In fact, the Griffin Area Alumnae Chapter of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Incorporated (my beloved sorority) is currently reading it in a four-meeting, online Book Chat Series. The second meeting was Friday, but there are two additional meetings that will be held in February and March. In other words, there is still time to read the novel and get caught up!

To register for this open Book Chat Series, which is on Zoom, click HERE!

Finally, because I do love relationship drama (if it is not my own LOL), I will be watching Prince Harry tonight at 7:30 on “60 Minutes” on CBS! He did not just leave the monarchy. He is torching the joint! Below is a clip from the interview!

Any thoughts?

 

The Top 10 Blog Posts and or Magazine Articles for Black Christian Women in May 2022…

Hello World,

And Hello June…I’m back with my monthly roundup of blog posts and or magazine articles for black Christian women! Below is my Top 10 monthly roundup of blog posts and or magazine/newspaper articles for black Christian women for May, but you don’t have be a black Christian woman to to check them out. As usual, let me know if you like my list! Enjoy and share!

1. “What does it mean to trust Black women?” by Sharon Blount

Excerpt: A recent scientific study found that Black newborn babies in the United States are three times more likely to die when looked after by White doctors. In her essay, “Dying to be Competent,” African American sociologist, writer and professor, Tressie McMillan Cottom shares how her daughter became one of those statistics. Four months into her pregnancy, Cottom began bleeding. She reported the symptoms to her doctor and went immediately to his office but sat in the waiting room for half an hour before being seen. After the doctor examined her, he sent her home explaining that the bleeding was normal and that Cottom “was probably just too fat.” See more at: pres-outlook.org. 

2. “Tabitha Brown Is Launching a Clothing Line for Target” by Elizabeth Logan

Excerpt: Tabitha Brown, social media star and vegan influencer, has teamed up with Target to create Tabitha Brown for Target, a line of clothes and products her fans are sure to love. Tabitha Brown for Target is a limited-time-only line of, per a press release, “apparel, swim and accessories items, home and office, food and kitchenware, entertaining and more.” The line will be composed of more than 75 items, with most available for under $30. See more at: glamour.com.

3. “Macy’s Wins Over Underserved Market: Black Sororities” by Jordyn Holman

Excerpt: Inside a Macy’s a few months ago, Cenetta Baker-Woods discovered something that made her immediately call her sorority sisters. Holding up her phone’s video camera in the Charlotte, North Carolina, store, the 32-year-old showed fellow members of Zeta Phi Beta, a historically Black organization, racks of $90 dresses in unmistakable color combos that she knew were designed specifically for them. Baker-Woods was right, having stumbled across a new strategy by Macy’s to win over Black sororities in a partnership with clothing maker Kasper Group. Members of these organizations maintain strong ties well after college through conventions and chapter events and have a consistent need for dressier attire in their group’s colors. But finding a frock in a pattern like royal blue and white (Zeta Phi Beta’s colors) can be difficult. See more at: bloomberg.com. 

4. “Dianna Hobbs’s touching online tribute to Buffalo supermarket massacre victim, Pearl Young” by Rebecca Johnson

Pearl Young was a long-time member of the Good Samaritan Church in Buffalo, N.Y.

Excerpt: Hobbs, who said she “used to attend the same church with Mother Young,” wrote that she was “such a positive, warm, loving spirit. You had to experience her smile to understand how it would light up a room.” Hobbs continued, “I will forever remember that beautiful smile, how much she loved to praise the Lord, and how encouraging she was to me and my husband. She loved hearing me sing at church and admonished me, always, to go forth in the work of the Lord. She helped instruct me in the word of God to prepare me to obtain my Evangelist Missionary license. It is people like her who, along my life’s journey, helped mold and shape me into the woman I am today. See more at: eewmagazineonline.com.

5. “In ‘Truth’s Table’ book, women podcasters cast vision for future of Black church” by Adelle M. Banks

Excerpt: The three Black women — a public theologian, a senior pastor, an educator and psychologist — first got to know each other through a group chat. After having wide-ranging discussion on religion, race and gender, they met at a conference, where they were encouraged to start a joint podcast. Now, their book, Truth’s Table: Black Women’s Musings on Life, Love, and Liberation, was released April 26. Ekemini Uwan, Michelle Higgins and Christina Edmondson have said their work — in audio and in print — is designed expressly for Black women but they welcome others into their audience, to what they call their “standing-room section.” See more at: ncronline.org.

6. “Short story writer Deesha Philyaw: ‘I wanted to challenge the church’s obsession with sex’” by Lucy Knight

Excerpt: When asked to choose their favourite story in The Secret Lives of Church Ladies, Deesha Philyaw’s acclaimed debut collection, most people, the author tells me, say Peach Cobbler. This simultaneously funny and punch-in-the-guts-devastating tale focuses on Olivia, a young girl in the American south who believes the local pastor to be God, because when he visits she overhears her mother screaming “Oh, God!” from the bedroom. See more at: theguardian.com. 

7. “AFRO Exclusive: Bishop Vashti Murphy McKenzie named Interim President and General Secretary of the National Council of Churches of Christ” 

Excerpt: Bishop McKenzie has been appointed to a two-year term as Interim President and General Secretary. In this role, she will provide executive leadership to a diverse covenant community of 37-member communions with 30 million Christians and 100,000 congregations from Protestant, Anglican, historic African American, Orthodox, Evangelical and Living Peace traditions which have a common commitment to advocate and represent God’s love and unity in the public square. Since 1950, the National Council of Churches has worked in a common expression of God’s love and promise of unity. She is the third woman and the first African American woman to serve as General Secretary and the first woman to serve in the combined role of President and General Secretary. See more at: afro.com.

8. “Karine Jean-Pierre starts job as first Black White House press secretary” by Associated Press

Excerpt: “Representation matters, and not just for girls, but also for boys,” Jean-Pierre told reporters during the first of what probably will be hundreds of daily news briefings she will hold. “And so what I hope is that young people get to dream big and dream bigger than they have before by seeing me stand here and answer all of your questions.” See more at: washingtonpost.com.

9. “19-Year-Old Texas Student Becomes Nation’s Youngest Black Law School Graduate: ‘It Feels Really Good'” by Maria Pasquini

Excerpt: Haley Taylor Schlitz is making history! Over the weekend, the 19-year-old student graduated from Southern Methodist University’s Dedman School of Law. In the process, not only did she become the school’s youngest law school graduate, but she also became the youngest Black law school graduate in the country, according to the Fort Worth Star-Telegram. See more at: people.com.

10. “Here’s the Real Takeaway From Black Lives Matter’s Sketchy Finances” by Ernest Owens

Excerpt: One of the more concerning situations revealed by the financial disclosures is the fact that co-founder Patrisse Cullors was the foundation board’s sole voting director, and held no board meetings, before stepping down last year. Under her leadership, Cullors authorized a six-figure payout to be given to her child’s father for various services, paid $1.8 million to companies owned by her relatives, and ensured that her brother, Paul Cullors, was one of the highest-paid employees of BLM. See more at: thedailybeast.com.

If you know of any black Christian women bloggers and or writers, please e-mail me at jacqueline@afterthealtarcall.com as I’m always interested in expanding my community of black Christian women blog, magazines and websites. As I noted before, while this is a roundup of interesting blog posts and or magazine and newspaper articles for black Christian women, you don’t have to be one to appreciate these pieces  🙂.

Any thoughts?

 

 

 

Tasha Cobbs Leonard’s Facebook Post About Her New Dress Gets Some Negative Comments…

Hello World,

On the same day that Lizzo cried on an IG Live video about “fat-phobic” “racist” and “hurtful” comments directed toward her after she released her new song “Rumors” featuring Cardi B., in the gospel music world, Tasha Cobbs Leonard also received some negative comments after she posted pictures of herself in a new dress. Below are some of the negative comments:

Beautiful dress but it’s too much for an already big person.

You are beautiful young lady But that dress does you no justice. Those kind of styles make you look two sizes larger. That’s why I don’t wear those type. Just being honest with love. Blessings 🌹

Tasha, I love you and I love your music – every song. I am not trying to put you down or anything, I am just being honest in a loving way. The color of the dress suits you very well but the style is not for you. I have seen you in some gorgeous gorgeous outfits!

This dress is really ugly but she is beautiful.

Y’all stop trying to butter up her cookie… you know this dress is wrongly made for her.

Agreed. It’s not made well for her. Looks like she’s in a curtain.

When I first saw the dress I kept thinking float, ugly and wrong that dress is not cute it’s too much fabric and she need to go back to wearing clothes that snatch her body into shape not tents.

Despite the negative comments, most of the comments were overwhelmingly positive. Below is the Facebook post…

As someone who has struggled with body image issues over the years, I hesitate to comment specifically on these types of issues, but my basic thought is: If you like it, I love it. However, because your girl is thick from the waist down, I tend to wear form-fitting clothing to make me look more “snatched.” Sometimes, they are too form-fitting for my husband’s tastes, but I have to live and be confident in this body, not him so…

Regarding Lizzo though, Jill Scott is a beautiful curvy woman and has never received the feedback that Lizzo has…I wonder why…anywho, I digress…

But what say you?

Any thoughts?