It's We Thing, Not a Me Thing... - After the Altar Call

Hello World,

Well, ask and you shall receive…Last week, in my post “Let’s Stay Together?” I asked what could be so bad that would cause Arnold Schwarzenegger & Maria Shriver to separate after 25 years of marriage. A week later, I now know the answer to this question. “The Adulterator” nee ” The Terminator” had admitted he “behaved badly sometimes” after being accused of “groping women” during his 2003 gubernatorial campaign, but what he admitted to yesterday is beyond behaving badly. Schwarzenegger admitted that he fathered a child 14 years ago with a member of their household staff, and the woman just retired from working for the couple. The way he managed to keep an infidelity of such proportion from his wife and the public for this long is strictly gangsta! I feel sorry for Maria Shriver and their children as they deal with the fallout from this explosive revelation…

Yesterday, on my Facebook page, I pondered if there are certain men that are predisposed to be cheaters. I got many responses to my questions, but nothing that made me come to a conclusion. Maybe one day there will be a study on this topic, and maybe there has been but I haven’t bothered to research the topic. At any rate, after talking to a friend last night, it occurred to me that all of us are capable of grievous behavior. And conversely, we are also capable of greatly estimable acts. What makes us choose which way we will go?

I think accountability groups can help us become the person we could not become alone…For instance, every spring, I join the Jeff Galloway Training Program to get ready for the Peachtree Road Race, a 6.2-mile race that is held on July 4th each summer in Atlanta. Although I can train on my own, training with a group forces me to make my training a priority when it would be easier to not train and hope for the best on race day. Each week, I know that I must get in my weekly runs if I expect to be able to keep up my group each Saturday. And this year, I joined a faster group of runners so I defintely have to get my training in…

One of the benefits of getting older (not that I’m old) is knowing what works for you. Whenever I have wanted to learn a new skill or energize an area of my life, I have found that it is best to connect with another person or people for accountability…Since I am not married, I have not researched this, but I wonder if there are organized marriage accountability groups…Maybe there needs to be a marriage accountability group for rich, powerful men that would help them resist the temptations that men of that stature have to face…Maybe Schwarzenegger would have benefitted from such a group…

I have heard that accountability is one of the reasons that a witness must be present at a wedding. And when a couple chooses to get married in front of many witnesses, those chosen witnesses should help the couple remain true to the vows they made in front of them. There is something mysterious that happens when two or more people join together for a common cause…even the Word says so…