As we all know, domestic violence, unfortunately, is not a new issue and has often sparked national conversation…Remember the Farah Fawcett movie “The Burning Bed?”…But with the Monday TMZ release of the video in which former Ravens running back Ray Rice punched his wife Janay (then fiancee), knocking her unconscious and to the floor of an elevator, domestic violence is once again the topic of a national conversation…as it should be…
For women like myself who, fortunately, have no experience with domestic abuse, it is hard to understand why women will marry an abusive man as Janay did AFTER the incident in the elevator and stay with an abusive husband…However, unlike in 1984, when that groundbreaking movie “The Burning Bed” was released, new platforms such as Twitter and Instagram give the opportunity for women across the nation and the world to speak about their experiences with domestic violence…
Janay spoke out yesterday about she is choosing to stay with Ray Rice on Instagram…
And many women, in an effort to help people understand rather than judge, tweeted about whey they stayed using the hashtag #WhyIStayed….
Below are a few of the tweets that I read with this important hash tag…
#whyistayed He said he’d kill himself if we broke up.
— Carol Howard Merritt (@CarolHoward) September 10, 2014
#whyistayed I didn’t want to have a failed marriage at 25 #whyileft I didn’t want my daughter to think this was ok and normal
— Hoops (@Hoops2122) September 10, 2014
Beverly Gooden, author of “Confessions of a Church Girl” and creator of the hashtag #WhyIStayed, spoke about why she stayed in an abusive marriage on ABC’s “Good Morning America” this morning…
And below is a video of the interview…
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So as we continue to have this important conversation, let’s support rather judge domestic violence survivors…
Any thoughts?
Lots of thoughts and questions, including how do we offer support? How do we “support” women and the model we inevitably create for young girls when the choices may be destructive? How do we support, while taking care not to become desensitized when women struggle with staying or leaving.
Thanks for your post ~ this story and hearing the others has broken my heart.
*have broken my heart LOL!
Correction: have broken my heart LOL!
I got it 🙂